"What if all women were bigger and stronger than you? And thought they were smarter? What if women were the ones who started wars? What if too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos and no K-Y Jelly? What if the state trooper who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike was a woman and carried a gun? What if the ability to menstruate was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs? What if your attractiveness to women depended on the size of your penis? What if every time women saw you they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands? What if women were always making jokes about how ugly penises are and how bad sperm tastes? What if you had to explain what’s wrong with your car to big sweaty women with greasy hands who stared at your crotch in a garage where you are surrounded by posters of naked men with hard-ons? What if men’s magazines featured cover photos of 14-year-old boys with socks tucked into the front of their jeans and articles like: “How to tell if your wife is unfaithful” or “What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate” or “The truth about impotence”? What if the doctor who examined your prostate was a woman and called you “Honey”? What if you had to inhale your boss’ stale cigar breath as she insisted that sleeping with her was part of the job? What if you couldn’t get away because the company dress code required you wear shoes designed to keep you from running? And what if after all that women still wanted you to love them?"
— For The Men Who Still Don’t Get It, Carol Diehl (via deathcatsforcutie)
(Source: sassysluteverforever, via maddylonglegs)
Here she goes again, ranting on and on about women in technology.
Sorry but its a daily reality for women while for men, it is simply a nagging irritating noise that gets in the way of their testosterone-only board meetings. I recently got the comment, “Daisy, that is life. You need to just ignore it and move on! And maybe you should be less serious about this feminism thing.”
Like, oh sunflowers and unicorns, I haven’t been doing enough? I don’t know, I should try maybe, explicitly telling men to stop being misogynist pigs? Except that doesn’t work.
It is also really frustrating that male coworkers won’t stand up for all the sexist bullshit that happens right in front of them. When I was at a conference and a business partner made a sexual comment about the dress I was wearing, it was pretty pitiful to see all my male counterparts close their eyes and act like they didn’t hear anything- instead of supporting me when I responded, “you’re a pig”. And we continue to do business with him today.
The moral of the story is that men do not care enough to advance women’s rights and respectability in the work force. They will be nice and cordial to you, but they will NOT stand up to their sexist colleagues. Throw them in a 80% male conference, and they revert back to their 12 year old pre-pubescent mental states. It takes women leaders to force change, and men to support them in and out of work.
I’m sick of complaining to men in technology who have absolutely no idea what I’m talking about, partly because of denial and another because it genuinely does not affect them at all. I’m sick of men telling me I just need to deal with it, it will change eventually. I want a mentor to be able to say 'Yes I understand and I support her and we're going to do this'. Sheesh is that too much to ask?!
I need more women in my life. Too bad the tech sector is so vicious towards females, it makes us question whether or not we want to stay in this industry. I love my job, but the ignorant men who use the excuse that they never have to work with vaginas are literally KILLING ME.
"If you don’t think Katy Perry was racist—let me ask you, what if she had performed in blackface? Perhaps a costume isn’t the same as changing skin color to you, but it is agonizingly close for me—I remember Mickey Rooney in buckteeth for his role as Mr. Yunioshi in Breakfast at Tiffany’s; Jonathan Pryce in Yellowface in Miss Saigon; Gwen Stefani in her Harajuku phase. Every Halloween brings up the same issues. As I pointed out in my article, this kind of “costume” is a way of acting out a power relationship. “Whites have historically held power. Therefore Katy Perry has the right to use Japanese culture.” Racism is defined as prejudice plus power—I think Katy Perry’s performance meets the criteria for a racist performance."
— Yes, Katy Perry’s Performance Was Racist. Here’s Why. (via thebicker)